ALL i want was to give a gift to some one i call “friend ”
Now can some one tell me…in what way was i wrong ?
If a friend had make you mad, don’t forget that friend had also make you happy before…
Friendship is when you have had a huge fight, deciding once for all… ‘That’s it’, but then you decide to put aside your egos, hold hands & say, “Let be friends again”

All i wants is to give a Christmas gift to a some 1 i call friend. what did i really do wrong ??
Just happened to me a few days ago or should i say last year…

Part 1 (Part 2 : 3rd Christmas Gift 2009 for Lovely Buddy)

Both G and I was working at the same hospital but different area.I was working at A/E while he was working at ICU. He had changed while working at ICU. His temper becoming worse.

This Christmas, i got for him a gift. For some reason , he do not like the gift. Ok i went and buy a second gift on 25/12/2009. I had called & sms him. Asking him when will he be so that i could pass him his gift. I don’t mind to meet him either before or after his duty start since both of us are working at the same hospital.
I went up to his ward to pass the gift to his staffs as he was not around. Sadly to say, i gotten a sms from him saying that he do not like it and that he had dumped it away. He say he prefer a “sitting ” /another version of the toy. That hurts. A gift is suppose to be a gift of thought. Even if he don’t like it, he can always return to me or give to others. Am i silly ? I actually went to the shop and got a gift for the 3rd time !
went up to G ward to pass the 3rd Christmas to his ward staff as he was no around.
Enclosed was a note from me. I wrote that i cam e up to the ward as he was not free to meet me & that i was unable to contact him via mobile phone.
The very next day, i got a few nasty sms-es from G.

He said that the Night Duty Ward sister had seen the gift & the note & she was not pleased at all.
( FYI : i never written any thing negative about the ward or the ward staffs.)

I tried to ask for more details but G didn’t reply me. I really don’t know why was the ward sister angry. Perhaps she do not like people to pass items during working hours ? But i never had this problems at other wards & hospitals.
I called the ward & request to speak to the ward sister. I mean, i do have a right to know what was happening right ? Especially if i was the 1 who had caused all these “problems ”

I still wrote the letter.

After all the telephone numbers i used to call up the ward happened to be the telemetry line. Honestly , i didn’t know that. I got the number from the hospital operators when i called up the hospital main line !

Also another thought that may crossed some of the people’s mind will be that the items i sent up to the ward may not be termed “safe ” especially now that we have read about terrorist’s cases every now & then in the papers right ?

Here, i would like to say some thing , if this was the cases, didn’t we see florists or even delivery man sending items up to the ward or even HA/Potters pushing their trolleys here & then ? How sure can we be that they are not some terrorists in disguise ?

I am very grateful to my friend shu han & his girlfriend for coming down to the hospital at around 1045pm just to accompany me & to shu han for going up to the ward with me to submit the letter !

Originally, i had planned to ask Gabriel (Level 5) to help me to pass the letter to G (Level 6) on my behalf. However Gabriel was not on duty on this very day !

Deja Wu ? For some reason , i just have a weird “feeling” that he was just making a fool out of me. Such as setting a time limit that he wished to have the letter by 10pm BUT he may not submit it to the ward sister. Yes, i have posted 1 copy of the letter to the ward.

Also i would like to tell everyone that no matter how stressful you feel, you shouldn’t have” threaten” your friends.
I had read Sunday times (3/1/2010) – True Nature Of Friendship By Lee W.L and i feel that if G apologise to me, i would have forgive him. I will treat it as he was feeling stressful as working at ICU is not easy.
Of course , it will take more than a mere sorry for me to forgive him.

The ward sister who answered my duty was not aware of this issue as she was not the Night ward sister was duty.

G came to know that i had called up the ward……

G “threatened” that if i do not wrote a apology letter to his ward sister, he too, will come down to my work area to make a fuss.

Now , to my simple mind, all these would not have happen if only he just take the 1st gift right ? i want to “make things right ” ..that was the reason why i buy /change 2nd and even 3rd gift..

Can any 1 please advice me …thanks